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Mixtape: Bloom

Our latest edition of Mixtape features authors Nicole Breit and Claire Sicherman who share the songs that shaped their coming-of-age years. Their collaborative memoir, Bloom: Letters on Girlhood (Caitlin Press), unfolds as an intimate letter exchange spanning two and a half years where they have a deeply personal conversation about growing up, self-discovery, and the power of connection.

Hit play and read on for the soundtrack to their coming-of-age years!

Book cover of "Bloom by Nicole Breit and Claire Sicherman

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Our memoir, Bloom: Letters on Girlhood, is a conversation about the experiences we felt too much shame to talk about when we came of age in 1980s Vancouver: periods, body hair, desire, sex, and a deep sense of isolation and powerlessness.

Between the covers of our book you’ll encounter vulnerable thoughts and feelings we’d only dare scribble in a locked diary, whispered conversations that could only take place at a slumber party. The two of us—Claire and Nicole—didn’t know each other back when we were teenagers, but became intimate friends as we wrote our book. When you read our letters we hope you remember your own stories, the bravery it took to make your way through those awkward teen years—and maybe even laugh a little.

Our mixtape is a selection of songs that play on in our imaginations when we remember our girlhoods—music heard on the radio (or videos watched on MuchMusic); blasted through a boom box at the outdoor pool; performed at Nicole’s first concert; echoed through speakers at a junior high school dance where Claire experienced her first quick wet kiss.

About the book: Bloom: Letters on Girlhood (Caitlin Press) is a raw, searching and intimate memoir told through a conversation between two acclaimed writers about silence and shame and what it means to come of age as young women .

Now, to the songs!

Letter Two: Nicole

Album: Standing in the Dark by Platinum Blonde

Song: “Doesn’t Really Matter”

Why: When I was 13 I was in a hurry to check off major rights of passage: first boyfriend, first period, first concert. Although this song has nothing to do with a teenage girl’s inner longings, I loved repeating the chorus to bash out the endless waiting for life to happen. My first concert was Platinum Blonde at Expo 86 in Vancouver. I went with two younger cousins and bought a garish pink lettered white T-shirt that was way too tight to wear in public. I did not tell my parents I paid $30 for a shirt I only ever wore to bed.

Letter Five: Claire

Album: Bridge Over Troubled Water by Simon & Garfunkel

Song: “Cecilia”

Why: This song makes me so happy—even after listening and singing it a million times. It captures the emotional rollercoaster that comes with love: He loves me. He loves me not. HE LOVES ME!!! I’ve been singing Simon & Garfunkel tunes for as long as I can remember (my parents were big fans), but especially in grade ten when I was channeling the 70s and all things hippie—and even now in middle-age, I’m still “Feelin’ Groovy.”

Letter Eight: Nicole

Album: Live from Earth by Pat Benatar

Song: “Love is a Battlefield”

Why: I was obsessed with rock videos, so it’s impossible for me to hear this song and NOT picture Pat Benatar tossing a drink in the face of a Slick Rick at a sleazy underground club. I already knew from watching Dallas with my parents that love was way more complicated than a Disney movie. Since my crush had no interest in me whatsoever, the battle for love waged on silently in my own heart—forgotten, temporarily, during lip sync competitions with my younger brother (a.k.a. Bryan Adams) in which, at the end, I threw a drink in his face…

Letter Eight: Nicole

Album: Heart by Heart

Song: “What About Love”

Why: I needed female rock stars like my hero, Ann Wilson, to commiserate with me during my most intense years of romantic disappointment; no friend could reasonably be expected to take on the job. This song taught me that even a talented beauty with a powerhouse voice wasn’t immune to a guy missing the message. Ever hopeful, I showed up at my crush’s house on Hallowe’en night dressed like a hot witch (i.e. in a black Ann Wilson wig). Yes, Corey Parker, you were right: grade nine was a little old for trick-or-treating. But just the right age for stalking. 

Letter Thirteen: Claire

Album: Hangin Tough by New Kids on the Block

Song: “Please Don’t Go Girl”

Why: A giant poster of Joey McIntyre was plastered on one of the white walls in my tiny, closet-sized bedroom. While I didn’t press my lips against Joey’s paper ones, when he sang this song, my heart melted—right along with the rest of the girls in my grade seven class. To this day, I can still belt out this romantic ballad like nobody’s business. 

Letter Thirteen: Claire

Album: Emotions by Mariah Carey 

Song: “Emotions”

Why: Even though Mariah’s five-octave vocal range and signature whistle register was enough to pierce my eardrums and shatter the glass in our cabinets, her music was one of the first cassette tapes I received from my friend Heather. Alongside Mariah, I listened to Janet Jackson and Milli Vanilli (pre-scandal, of course) because Heather said they were cool and I was trying to bolster my social status. 

Letter Fourteen: Nicole

Album: Violator by Depeche Mode

Song: “Enjoy the Silence”

Why: With its dreamy synth loops and sonic textures, this song would have been an excellent accompaniment to arriving in the bed of a certain boy after crawling through his window at midnight. In reality, of course, there were too many unknowns to act on my twelfth grade fantasy. What if I got all the way there undetected by our parents and he didn’t want me? Could I really walk all the way home after my hymen broke without needing a ride from my dad? I had no idea the best way to have sex with someone was to talk to them about it first. 

Letter Seventeen: Claire

Album: Love is Strange by Mickey & Sylvia

Song: “Love is Strange”

Why: Dirty Dancing was my first mixtape and this particular song holds a beloved place in my heart. I wasn’t allowed to watch the movie when it first came out; my parents deemed it too risqué. But later, I understood what all the fuss was about. My eyes were glued to Patrick Swayze’s tight black pants and bulging biceps, utterly mesmerized as he swept Jennifer Grey across the dance floor. My husband and I still sing it to each other—especially the part about the “lover boy.”  

Letter Seventeen: Claire

Album: Boomerang by Boyz II Men

Song: “End of the Road”

Why: After Nick—the boy I thought I liked—and I got our groove on to C+C Music Factory’s “Gonna Make You Sweat” in the junior high gym, we slow danced to “End of the Road.” Then he leaned in and planted the quickest, wettest kiss on my lips. My response? I bolted straight to the girls’ bathroom and hid until my mom came to pick me up. I did eventually learn to love kissing—though I still don’t like wet, slobbery ones. 

Letter Twenty-Four: Nicole

Album: Almacantar by Eight Seconds

Song: “Kiss You (When It’s Dangerous)”

Why: I’m tucked in under the pink and blue floral ruffly bedspread, my brother’s orange fuzzy Walkman earphones cancelling out all other sound. This song from the album Almacantar fills my ears as I lay in the dark grasping for a glimpse of my hazy unwritten future. There’s something about the haunting piano melody, the warmth in a handsome stranger’s voice filling the ache of empty spaces. My arms and legs become drowsy, the blankets heavier and softer. I am 13 and unable to conjure my first kiss. So I rewind the tape and listen again.  

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A photo of Claire Sicherman. She is a light-skin-toned woman with curly brown hair. She is wearing a coral-coloured button-up shirt and standing near a body of water.
Author photo of Claire Sicherman

Claire Sicherman is the author of Imprint: A Memoir of Trauma in the Third Generation. Her writing has been published in anthologies and journals including Awfully Hilarious: Period Pieces, Don’t Ask: What Families Hide, Sustenance: Writers from BC and Beyond on the Subject of Food, Grain Magazine, Pithead Chapel, Lost Balloon, Hippocampus, and The Rumpus. Claire is a facilitator, speaker, and trauma-informed somatic writing coach, supporting writers in bringing the stories they hold in their bodies out onto the page. Find her at clairesicherman.com.

Author photo of Nicole Breit, photo credit to Adrienne Hynds
Author photo of Nicole Breit

Nicole Breit (she/her) is a queer award-winning essayist and writing coach based on the traditional lands of the Sḵwx̱wú7mesh people in Gibsons, BC. Her work has been widely published in journals and anthologies including Brevity, The Fiddlehead, Room, Hippocampus, Pithead Chapel, Event, Swelling with Pride: Queer Conception and Adoption Stories (Caitlin Press), Awfully Hilarious: Period Pieces (ed. Heather Hendrie) and Getting to the Truth: The Craft and Practice of Creative Nonfiction (Books by Hippocampus). Nicole’s essay about first love and loss, “An Atmospheric Pressure”, was selected as a notable essay by the editors of Best American Essays, 2017. When she isn’t writing or coaching creative nonfiction authors in her Spark Your Story programs, you’ll find her wandering by the seaside, hiking in the forest or planning her next escape with her wife in their vintage campervan. Visit her at nicolebreit.com.

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Grab a copy of Bloom: Letters on Girlhood to read along with this rockin’ new playlist. Many thanks to Claire and Nicole for sharing the soundtracks to their coming-of-age!